“Maybe you can’t see the storm that lies just ahead. But I can. Believe me, it’s there.”
Confronting issues openly and honestly can be difficult. Many, like me are afraid of the reaction they’ll get from the person they are confronting. With that fear firmly embedded in one’s psyche, looking the other way and acting like the problem isn’t there becomes the easy way out. Or so it seems. Looking the other way really doesn’t make matters easier at all. In fact, it makes them worse. Problems often just don’t go away without some action.
I haven’t faced some very big issues and challenges that have been in my life for too long now. But I see clearly that I can’t let these problems linger. In my situation the problems have grown and the result is more and more hurt to me. I feel fear of the reaction I expect to receive. My fears I know after giving it long thought are grounded in reality and not based on my imagination. To get myself beyond this fear, I will have to have the necessary support around me to protect me. With my support in place I will face my problems. I must remember that storms don’t last forever. Eventually the sun does shine again, and life was nourished by the rains. I will come out of this a better person.
I’m walking down the line
that divides me somewhere in my mind
on the border line of the edge
and where I walk alone
Read between the lines what’s
fucked up and every things all right
Check my vital signs to know I’m still alive
And I walk alone
Green Day – Boulevard of Broken Dreams Lyrics
Too often, I find that I am superstitious and interpret signs that appear in life in negative or hostile ways. Because I don’t believe in myself, it is then that I tend to think that fate is against me.
But life isn’t for or against any of us. If we are attentive, we will see many signs of promise during each day; signs of promise, signs of goodness, and signs of beauty. If we trust ourselves and the Universe, we will know how to interpret the world and use it to do good things.
Sometimes, we may be unsure of our next step or even our general direction in life. If we are patient and alert to the world around us, we will pick up on the many hints and clues that will help us on our way – a telephone call from a friend, a warm hug, a chance encounter, a job offer, a word of advice from a special loved one. When we are ready, we’ll know how to respond and what to do.
One thing we can learn to be sure of: in this world of signs, we are not alone. We don’t want to believe in a hostile fate, do we? The world is good and we can find our way in it by being patient and learning to read the signs.
The handwriting on the wall may be a forgery. — Ralph Hodgson
Human misery must somewhere have a stop:
There is no wind that always blows a storm.
It’s easy to think we’ll always be in the same boat, that our characters are fixed, our habits unalterable. “This is who I am. You can take me or leave me.” I know that when I find myself saying similar words to myself or thinking in this way, I often mean, “When you know who I really am, you will leave me.” No one is predestined to be a certain person or to behave in a particular way.
No one stops growing and changing either. We have to have faith in the immense possibilities of movement and growth. Life itself is more than winds and storms. It can be calm, changeable, hot, dry, mellow, promising, gloomy, bright, serene and even phenomenal!
We can match life’s immense diversity of moods. We are a part of life; part of all this wondrous change and diversity and if we are not afraid to let ourselves go a bit, we can be as variable and flexible as life itself.
- Letter: My Life in Therapy (nytimes.com)
- Friends share personal details to strengthen relationships in United States, but not in Japan, study finds (sciencedaily.com)
- If-then plans help protect us from the ‘to hell with it’ effect (bps-research-digest.blogspot.com)