How About Making Today the First Day, of the Best Year of Your Life?
I have committed to blogging about my attempt to bring more “positivity” to my life. I’m going to share my discoveries, realizations, new awareness, experimentation, success and failure as I attempt to bring a greater sense of positive thinking into my life. I’ve heard if from more than a handful of people now, that I tend to focus on the negative. My awareness has been raised and that’s not what I want in my life at all! So here’s my summary of what I learned today:
I found a quote by William Shakespeare, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so”. And I paired with this quote “The Happiness Habit”. The Happiness Habit is developed by simply practicing happy thinking. Make a mental list of happy thoughts and pass them through your mind several times every day.
If “un-happiness” thought should ever enter your mind, immediately stop, consciously eject it, and substitute a happiness thought. Every morning, before arising from bed, just stay in bed, lying in a relaxed state, and drop happy thoughts into your conscious mind. Let a series of pictures pass across your mind of each happy experience you expect to have during the day. Savor their joy. Such thoughts, I am told and I am now a believer will help cause events to turn out that way!
– Contributions from works by Norman Vincent Peale –
- Be Happy! (christophersmark.wordpress.com)
- Positive Thinking in 2011 (christophersmark.wordpress.com)
- Life, gratitude, and the new year (psychologytoday.com)
- Positivity Through the Happiness Habit (christophersmark.wordpress.com)
“The object of a New Year is not that we should have a new year. It is that we should have a new soul” .” — G. K. Chesterton
I usually don’t do well with the “New Year’s Resolution” thing. It lasts for maybe a week or two, and then I seem to forget about the big promises made for the upcoming year; to make it different. Well this year, my emphasis, and yes, even my resolution is, to have more positive thoughts, and to “hang in there”. I will write about my quest toward more positive thinking and share with all of you my successes and failures. My sadness and joy. But at least once per week I will devote one blog to the discussion of positive thinking.
Difficulties arise in the lives of us all. What is most important is dealing with hard times, coping with the changes, and getting through to the other side where the sun is shining just for us! It takes a strong person to deal with tough times and difficult choices. But I am a strong person. It takes courage. But I believe I have the inner courage to see challenge through. It takes being an active participant in life. But I am in the driver’s seat, and I can decide the direction I want tomorrow to go in.
I will hang in there… and take care to see that I don’t lose sight of the one thing that is constant, beautiful, and true: Everything will be fine – and it will turn out that way because of the special kind of person the Universe has created in me. So… beginning today as my New Year’s Resolution and lasting a lifetime through – I will hang in there, and not be afraid to feel the morning sun is shining, just for me.
- Make 2011 Your Year To Shine! [Terry Daniel] (ecademy.com)
- New Year’s Resolutions (raindropstoday.wordpress.com)
- 10 Positive Resolutions for a truly Happy New Year (positiveprovocations.com)
“What you think about expands” – Alan Cohen
To learn something new and apply it to one’s life, it is often necessary to do a “mental housekeeping” of sorts beforehand. Our minds often seem to have tapes playing – some with positive messages or affirmations and others with negative, oppositional messages. Positive thinking means thinking and talking about the things we want and not the things we don’t want. Negative thinking is thinking and talking about the things we don’t want.
“I can’t…” or “I don’t want…” indicate negative thinking; thoughts that provoke the exact opposite of what is desired. Negative thinking is like a photographic negative; just the opposite of the outcome hoped for. Try avoiding phrases like, “That makes me sick,” “I can’t see that,” “He gives me a headache,” “A pain in the neck,” and the like. These phrases create pictures in the mind of what we don’t want.
But what to do when negative thoughts are evoked and the negative tape is playing? Jose Silva found the “cancel, cancel” technique to be effective and began teaching it to students before teaching them how to relax and get to alpha level. The way the “cancel, cancel” technique works is, when a negative statement is made, say or think right away, “cancel, cancel.” Think of as pressing the “delete” key on your keyboard. Immediately replace the “cancelled” statement or thought with a positive statement or positive mental image of your desired goal.
Use positive statements about being healthy, being in control or being blessed. Try counting your blessings. Jose Silva believed the phrase “Better and better” triggers the mind to count our blessings and keep thinking about our goals and the outcomes we want. The “Cancel, cancel” and “Better and better” techniques that have made big differences in my life. The “Cancel, cancel” technique always seems to be one that people around me notice in our conversations and I always find myself grinning when I hear someone else in my life pick up its use.
Faith is another concept that Silva training defines as it applies to their techniques. The word “faith” for many evokes thoughts of religion or religious beliefs. For the purpose of learning the Silva techniques, faith is made up of want, belief and expectancy.
Desire is the motive force, the force that pushes us toward our goals. Desire, being a pushing, motivating force is of the physical dimension. Without want, one would never even begin a project. To increase the strength of one’s want, students learning the Silva technique are encouraged to repeat mentally or verbally what it is that is desired, along with the reasons for wanting that particular success. Once able to enter the alpha level of consciousness more desire and reasons for success are manifested. Why? Both hemispheres of the brain are functioning and working together giving twice the results.
Belief is what sustains between want and expectancy; from the driving force and the goal already created in the mind. Believe in yourself and your right to what you seek. Believe it is possible; avoid setting goals you cannot believe you can do. Anything your mind can conceive and believe and your heart desires can be achieved. Expectancy is of the alpha, the subjective, and the dimensional. It is the goal. If want is the propelling force, then expectancy is the target in sight.
- Introduction to Concepts of the Brain – Silva Style (christophersmark.wordpress.com)
- Intuition Psychology | Latest US Hot News (timmerman2000.com)
- Manifesting Your Destiny (socyberty.com)
“What you think about expands” — Alan Cohen
What we think, our attachment to and interpretation of our Affirmations are positive, personal statements that enhance self-esteem and a healthy attitude. Focusing our attention on an affirmation creates energy for the positive to develop. It also breaks the pattern of fear-based thoughts and self-defeating rumination.yields the result.
Unfortunately, by reciting an affirmation, one des not magically bring forth the desired outcome. The reading of affirmations is one of many tools to help one’s self in the deep exploration of the true self. Affirmations are best used along with conscious awareness, self-honesty, truthful living, love, forgiveness and acceptance of one’s self and others.
Many years ago, a dear friend presented me with an affirmation jar. Inside are 1″x6″ strips of paper in a bright display of primary colors: yellow, blue, green, purple, pink and red. Each strip of paper has a unique affirmation that goes something like:
“I unconditionally nurture myself today”
“Lightheartedness is an part of all that I am”
“I trust in the good and release my need to control”
“I am an enthusiastic participant in the process of co-creation”
“I willingly release harbored emotions, forgiving myself and others”
I don’t know how many originally came with the jar from my dear friend, but there seem to be hundreds! Many have been added over the years, either by myself or from friends along the way. I like to begin each day by pulling an affirmation. I’ll clip it to my calendar for the day, or place it on my computer monitor if I’m going to be doing a lot of writing. Just as long as it is somewhere that keeps that thought in my mind. Some days, I’ll use the affirmation that I pulled as the basis of my journaling, or even my blogging. I try to repeat my affirmation several times to reinforce its strength.
Gratitude for the abundance that is mine and that is to come is always heartfelt, just like the gratitude I shall always have for my dear friendwho gave me one more tool to manifest wholeness and inner peace.