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How Worthwhile I am; How Richly I am Blessed

 

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“Envy is more implacable than hatred.” – de La Rochefoucauld

 

Many of us, at times, have felt envious of other people.  We envy those who have what we want: more money, more self-confidence, a happy relationship, a more interesting life.  We may have defined our desires according to maligned values which told us we needed more, always more. 

If we look beneath our envy, what will we find?  Sadness?  Anger?  Feelings of deprivation?  These are real emotions, reflecting perhaps childhoods and present lives spent struggling with loss.  No wonder we lapse into envy; it’s painful to face the magnitude of the losses we’ve endured and the needs that have gone unmet. 

One way I am discovering to get beyond envy is to work toward healing the past by filling up the present.  We can recognize that envy is corrosive and disrespectful.  It turns people we envy into objects and separates us from them.  Peace of mind comes from living in the present and being comfortable with who we are.  We can’t live someone else’s life, only our own.

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