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You Are In Integrity

“You are in integrity when the life you live is an authentic expression of who you are.” — Alan Cohen

 

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The Gift of Laughter

“The most wasted day is that in which we have not laughed.” — Chamfort

 

When you’re laughing, I’d bet that you’re not feeling fear.  When I’m adrift in all my issues, challenges or life’s drama, I take myself far too seriously and I feel as though I’m losing touch with reality.  I become lost in fantasy and obsession. Life becomes joyless because I can’t see beyond what I see as my “burdens” and I find no real satisfaction there.  I lose touch with the joy and humor of life and I find that everything around me and inside of me is grim and dark.  This is when I most often begin to sense my fears.

One of the many touchstones of my personal growth and increasing sanity is the gift of laughter.  Each day as I gain more energy and zest for life, I move into the world where I find many things that are humorous, in me and in other people.  When I laugh, I don’t feel alone or afraid.

Laughter is a trait of a happy, healthy human being.  Laughter shows that we are a part of humankind.  It’s a sign that we’re alive, not afraid and that we’re getting better and better, day-by-day!  I’m so grateful that the work I’ve done so far on myself has once again brought me the gift of laughter.

 

 

lost, alone, afraid and confused

 


“The best rule of friendship is to keep your heart a little softer than your head.”    — Source unknown

 

Today I feel alone, afraid and confused. I feel as if every action I take is the wrong one. I feel every word that is uttered from my mouth is the wrong one. My self-confidence is zero. I feel unfulfilled in a large part of my life. I’m not sure yet what to do about all of this. When I look at my psychosocial plate in front of me, it is fuller than fat Aunt Lucy’s on Thanksgiving. I want my life to be normal; not some kind of existential, phenomenally cosmic experience or one of extreme wealth and luxury. Just give me a peaceful, happy and fulfilling life; one in which I feel safe, respected and loved. One in which I can trust that my experiences, perceptions and feelings are real and authentic.

I wish I could say that I have that now. But I can’t honestly say that I do. In my relationships with my close friends, I feel out of synch. Our communications are as though we are each speaking a language unknown to the other. I don’t want to be alone, or without my friends, but I feel as though each day puts us further apart, and not closer together or more connected.

Much is going on around me and I find myself being distracted with each frame of each drama that is being played out in front of me. I want to try to help every lost soul I see. There is one in particular I’d like to reach out to and help. I just can’t take him on as a project now. I need to be simplifying my life and not complicating it. I don’t know how much time I have left on this earth; I know that I want to make the most of it, however long that may be. I guess what I’m going to do today is take some time alone and prioritize that ugly mess that is on fat Aunt Lucy’s plate, and just go from there.

 

 

What Happens to You When You Feel Fear? This Is What Happens to Me.

Courage is fear that has said its prayers. – One Day at a Time in Al-Anon

Nothing freezes me in my tracks like fear. How many times have we let fear stop us from doing what we really wanted to do? For me, I know fear stopped me in the past from finding new clients for my business, finding a job, being honest with someone close to me, finding a new place to live and even from asking someone out on a date. Even simple things, like checking email and voicemail have applied the brakes on my progress.  But I couldn’t do these things I mention and more, because I was afraid.

The truth is, the moment our fear takes control, our self-will also takes control. The first thing to do is to admit to ourselves that we’re afraid. The second is to find out why. Discovering why may mean calling someone to talk, meditating or taking a “personal inventory” of ourselves. To feel the fear lift is to have ourselves back again. Then, when we know how we feel, we’ll know what to do. Susan Jeffers, a well-known author puts it this way, “Feel the fear, and do it anyway.”