Facing Our Own Dishonesty


“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”  — Prov. 25:11

Facing our own dishonesty can be daunting, but maintaining absolute honesty is a basic premise of our recovery program.  12 Step programs of recovery describe it as “rigorous” honesty.  Belief that we can be honest without a solid commitment simply won’t work.

The more we grow, the more we develop our ability to make one choice at a time, to experience one feeling at a time, to tell the truth one situation at a time.  We admit to ourselves when we feel guilty, angry, fearful, and resentful – the negative feelings that are difficult to face.  Being honest is how we finally come to know what used to baffle us about our addiction.  When we create a unity between honest feeling, honest thinking, and honest action, we find that we have become honest people.  Personal honesty is a gift for which I thank the Universe every day.


About Mark Schmitz

Living in Phoenix, AZ since 1995, originally from Brown Deer, Wisconsin. I'm a Gemini born on May 26, 1961. Single, GWM who is HIV and healthy. Spiritually diverse, I'm just trying to stay on the right path to learn all that I came here to learn. That's what my blogs are about - and total honesty.

Posted on January 30, 2011, in 12 Step Program, Addiction, Chemical Dependency, Drug Addiction, God the Universe and Our Higher Power as We Know it, Honesty, Life, Lying, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Recovery, Spirituality and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. Hi John, thanks for sharing useful info. Gratitude also plays a vital role in our daily life. So, everybody should know the attituide of gratitude.

  2. Being Honest about Honesty

    Mark, I agree with all you say, but let’s talk about the other side. If we are honest, we will admit to our courage, persistence, joy, love of life and our faith in abilities.

    Let’s be honest and admit we are doing something most of our old friends are not: we are trying.

    Let’s be honest and admit that we believe there is a glorious reward if we put in the effort of self discipline.

    Let’s be honest and look and the mirror and say we have greatness in us.

    To say we are guilty is dishonest if we do not also say we have taken responsibility. To live in shame is a dishonest emphasis on the negative, ignoring the positive fact that we have decided to rise up out of shame.

    The honest truth is we are not our old behaviors. The honest truth is we are light, hope and joy.

    John Bryan Stone

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