Ask for Help
“Asking for help does not mean we are weak or incompetent. It usually indicates an advanced level of honesty and intelligence.” — Anne Wilson Schaef
I’ve received a lot of help lately. Most from my dearest friend and some from people I never imagined I would receive so much of their time or efforts. I don’t like to ask. I’ll spend more energy talking about how hard it is for me to ask, than the energy I’d expend simply asking for what I need.
Many of us may have grown up in isolation and with shame being constantly reinforced the way I did. Help began to feel like a luxury reserved for other people. I thought I didn’t deserve it. I thought I should be able to handle everything. I failed to realize just when I needed help, because I’m so accustomed to living life in a “crisis mode.” I tell myself that my concerns and problems aren’t important enough to bother somebody with. Then, when life becomes really complicated, I blame myself for feeling overwhelmed and almost unable to act.
But we all deserve help. We deserve all the help that we may want and need, whether it’s a ride to an appointment or for someone’s shoulder to cry on when we’re sad or upset. We are worth the time, effort and concern of others – not because any of us is different, but because we are the same.
- I Feel As Though I’ve Lost My Way In This World (christophersmark.wordpress.com)
- How does it make you feel? (jennasauber.com)
- The Kindness Blotter: A Spate of Compliments and Helping Hands (fort-greene.thelocal.nytimes.com)
Posted on January 12, 2011, in Challenge, Change, Courage, Family, Friends, Friendship, Friendships, Gratitude, Help, Honesty, Inner Self, inspiration, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Mental Health, Opinions, People in your life, Perfection, Personal Growth, Positive Attitude, Positive Thinking, Purpose of Life, Relationships, Self concept, Self Discovery, Self Will, Self-forgiveness, Self-improvement, Shortcomings, Struggle, Suffering, Tough Times and tagged Ask for Help, Assistance, Change, Deserve Help, Help, Helping hand, Honesty, Life, life crisis, life in crisis mode, Love, Meet needs, Needs, Personal Growth, Positive attitude, Positive Thinking, Positivity, reach out, Relationships, Request, Requesting Help, Shortcomings, Struggle, Tough Times. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.