“There is no humiliation for humility.” — Joseph Roux
When I was young I can remember going to someone for help, only to be met by coldness. This happened often as I recall. The adults that participated in this horrible form of neglect were my parents, grandparents and even aunts and uncles. Compound this generalized lack of concern with friends mocking me when I tried to open to them. As if I even need one more of these emotional whammies, I can’t leave this one out: I was taken advantage of because I was sensitive and vulnerable. In short, I felt humiliated when I wanted to open up. So, what did I do? Well I resolved not to let myself be open and dependent. I closed myself off from others and became grandiose in my belief that I could go it alone.
Now, at this point in my life and personal growth, I am slowly learning to be humble. I have come to realize that nobody is an island, cut off from the world. I don’t know all the answers. I need the help of those who really do want to reach out to me.
It’s hard to be humble when I was so often humiliated, but I have to risk again reaching out to others; the rewards I have come to find out, are amazing! And it is wonderful to not be alone. I know that as an adult, I don’t have to keep on feeling humiliated. Being humble is a sign of strength, not of weakness. Now, I experience new power in my relationships with others.
- Go Ahead and Say You’re Sorry (psychologytoday.com)
- Humility is hard. Humiliation is harder. (logicandimagination.wordpress.com)
- The Challenges of Accepting and Loving Life (christophersmark.wordpress.com)
- Coupling (christophersmark.wordpress.com)
Posted on December 28, 2010, in feelings, Humiliation, Hurt emotions, Life, People in your life, Personal Growth, Personality, Relationships, Self concept, Self Discovery, Self-forgiveness, Self-improvement, Shame and tagged emotional whammy, humble, humiliation, Humility, Lack of concern, Mental Health, Mocking me, neglect, Personal Growth, Power in Relationships, Relationships, Self-help, Shame. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.