The Challenges of Accepting and Loving Life
“Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It’s not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.”
I know I’m not alone in my lingering fear of pain and the way I try to flee its onset. In the past, I would do almost anything to avoid being hurt, and I was unwilling to take risks in my emotional life. I remained in a love-less relationship for 16 1/2 years and a in a second, controlling, compulsive and impulsive relationship for nearly 11 years, then endured a 5 year abusive relationship because I didn’t want to feel the pain associated with ending those relationships.
Deep down though, I knew I was playing a dangerous game with my sanity. But at least I wasn’t making myself vulnerable, or so I thought. Life without pain I have learned is an impossibility. The same is true of love. Our loved ones may grow away from us for a while, or they may become sick, leave us or die. We cannot control life. Accepting it and loving it as it is, with everything that is unpredictable and painful about it, is one of my greatest challenges along my path of personal growth.
I can accept pain as a part of life, even as a part of my growth and health. I can accept pain when I have attained a sense of serenity in my heart. I must give up the false sense of power that results from closing myself off from pain, and, at last, I will feel fully alive.
- The Mother of all Depressions (christophersmark.wordpress.com)
- In Love v. Being “In Love” (christophersmark.wordpress.com)
- “This is life” … No, it’s narcissism on a huge scale (professorbainbridge.com)
Posted on December 21, 2010, in Awareness, Gay Domestic Violence, Gay Relationship, Intimacy, Life, Love, Opinions, People in your life, Personal Growth, Personality, Relationships, Self-improvement and tagged Abusive relationship, Advice, avoidance, Domestic Violence, hurt, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Mental Health, Pain, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Relationships, Serenity. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.