A friend of mine recently passed on to me one of his most important beliefs about relationships:
“The person with the greater need comes first. This means there are times I will consciously choose to set aside my own needs, feelings, or concerns because someone else’s need is greater. If I visit a friend in the hospital, it isn’t the time to go on and on about how I’ve accepted a new job and am moving across the country”.
I know that the more I progress through my own personal growth work, the more I’ll develop relationships to turn to for support. And, of course, I have the best resource of all – myself. My ability to guide, support and nurture myself increases without my being aware of it.
The self-centeredness and selfishness I possessed as the “old Mark”, before beginning work on myself begins to disappear. I don’t always have to vie for attention or have my way. I can decide to put someone else first, not out of martyrdom, but out of respect and love.
When in doubt, I will remember that the one with the greater need comes first!
- Things That Can Cause Break Up for Friendship (socyberty.com)
- The Gift of Friends (christophersmark.wordpress.com)
- True Friendship (socyberty.com)
Posted on December 19, 2010, in Friends, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, People in your life, Personal Growth, Purpose of Life, Relationships and tagged A friend in need, Facebook, Friends, Friendship, Friendships, Health, Interpersonal relationship, Intimacy, Life's Lessons, Love, Meeting Needs, Mental Health, Personal Growth, relationship, Relationships, Self-help, Successful Friendship. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.