On Friendship


 

 

Friendship is a strong and habitual inclination in two persons to promote the good and happiness of one another” – Eustace Budgell

A friend of mine recently passed on to me one of his most important beliefs about relationships:

“The person with the greater need comes first. This means there are times I will consciously choose to set aside my own needs, feelings, or concerns because someone else’s need is greater. If I visit a friend in the hospital, it isn’t the time to go on and on about how I’ve accepted a new job and am moving across the country”.

I know that the more I progress through my own personal growth work, the more I’ll develop relationships to turn to for support. And, of course, I have the best resource of all – myself. My ability to guide, support and nurture myself increases without my being aware of it.

The self-centeredness and selfishness I possessed as the “old Mark”, before beginning work on myself begins to disappear. I don’t always have to vie for attention or have my way. I can decide to put someone else first, not out of martyrdom, but out of respect and love.

When in doubt, I will remember that the one with the greater need comes first!


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About Mark Schmitz

Living in Phoenix, AZ since 1995, originally from Brown Deer, Wisconsin. I'm a Gemini born on May 26, 1961. Single, GWM who is HIV and healthy. Spiritually diverse, I'm just trying to stay on the right path to learn all that I came here to learn. That's what my blogs are about - and total honesty.

Posted on December 19, 2010, in Friends, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, People in your life, Personal Growth, Purpose of Life, Relationships and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

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