A friend of mine recently passed on to me one of his most important beliefs about relationships:
“The person with the greater need comes first. This means there are times I will consciously choose to set aside my own needs, feelings, or concerns because someone else’s need is greater. If I visit a friend in the hospital, it isn’t the time to go on and on about how I’ve accepted a new job and am moving across the country”.
I know that the more I progress through my own personal growth work, the more I’ll develop relationships to turn to for support. And, of course, I have the best resource of all – myself. My ability to guide, support and nurture myself increases without my being aware of it.
The self-centeredness and selfishness I possessed as the “old Mark”, before beginning work on myself begins to disappear. I don’t always have to vie for attention or have my way. I can decide to put someone else first, not out of martyrdom, but out of respect and love.
When in doubt, I will remember that the one with the greater need comes first!
Posted on December 19, 2010, in Friends, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, People in your life, Personal Growth, Purpose of Life, Relationships and tagged A friend in need, Facebook, Friends, Friendship, Friendships, Health, Interpersonal relationship, Intimacy, Life's Lessons, Love, Meeting Needs, Mental Health, Personal Growth, relationship, Relationships, Self-help, Successful Friendship. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.