Words Can Hurt


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Never forget what a man says to you when he is angry.”  — Henry Ward Beecher

Do we speak the truth when we’re angry?  I know that I am often quick to say, “I really didn’t mean it,” and I may even try to make amends for my thoughtlessness.  But people, especially children, rarely forget what was said to them in anger.

Angry words hurt and mark people; especially when trussed up with dishonesty and distortions.  Even if our parents didn’t really mean it, those angry voices and words are still with us.  We often come to believe that our parents didn’t love us or respect us; otherwise, how could they have said those angry things that still hurt? We still may believe this way, or “make up in our minds” that the source of the verbal onslaught of ugly may hold some sliver of truth.

We will always have moments of anger.  But we can think twice before letting anger, dishonesty, and distortions dictate our speech.  Words can hurt and people remember.

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About Mark Schmitz

Living in Phoenix, AZ since 1995, originally from Brown Deer, Wisconsin. I'm a Gemini born on May 26, 1961. Single, GWM who is HIV and healthy. Spiritually diverse, I'm just trying to stay on the right path to learn all that I came here to learn. That's what my blogs are about - and total honesty.

Posted on September 14, 2010, in About Me, Life, Personal Growth, Self-improvement, Spirituality and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. I too have hurt people with my anger. A fact that took me a long time to forgive myself, but I did eventually.

    I hate projected anger. It hurts. Yet it is part of life. To some degree, we need to suck it up. However, I think it is grossly underestimated how hurtful it is to us as children.

    Ciao

    Chaz

  2. Good word here, Mark. This reminds me of that saying, “A drunk man’s words are a sober man’s thoughts”. A lot of times its challenging to think before we speak in the heat of a passionate emotion.

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