Daily Archives: September 14, 2010

Words Can Hurt


Never forget what a man says to you when he is angry.”  — Henry Ward Beecher

Do we speak the truth when we’re angry?  I know that I am often quick to say, “I really didn’t mean it,” and I may even try to make amends for my thoughtlessness.  But people, especially children, rarely forget what was said to them in anger.

Angry words hurt and mark people; especially when trussed up with dishonesty and distortions.  Even if our parents didn’t really mean it, those angry voices and words are still with us.  We often come to believe that our parents didn’t love us or respect us; otherwise, how could they have said those angry things that still hurt? We still may believe this way, or “make up in our minds” that the source of the verbal onslaught of ugly may hold some sliver of truth.

We will always have moments of anger.  But we can think twice before letting anger, dishonesty, and distortions dictate our speech.  Words can hurt and people remember.


To Feel Joy Again

Visions for those too tired to sleep.  These seeds cast a film over eyes which weep.” — Amy Lowell

Many of us have struggled with depression during our lives.  Many of us have also felt shame when we were depressed, as if we were lazy or weren’t trying hard enough.

But that isn’t true.  The causes of depression are complex, and those of us who suffer from it owe it to ourselves to keep searching for relief.  As we work toward personal growth, it is natural for us to long to put all of our energy into our new lives.  The hopelessness, self-blame and apathy of depression can be paralyzing and even life-threatening.  When we need to cut stress, depression is a burden we don’t have to carry.

Whether our feelings are a result of external circumstances or our body’s chemistry, we can take good care of ourselves.  We can feel our anger and sadness.  We can seek professional help if necessary.  Try and remember, “This too shall pass.”  There can be an end to the suffering of depression.  We have good reason to hope we will feel joy again.