Daily Archives: September 4, 2010

The Scary Thing About Making a Decision

“In the important decisions, we should be governed, I think, by the deep inner needs of our nature.”             – Sigmund Freud

We all make decisions all the time, and each one of them, large or small, creates change within us.  Since change is frightening, making a decision is frightening too.  The process can become easier by asking ourselves the right questions: “Do I really want to do this?” or, “Will it benefit my life?” or “Is it realistic?”  These questions help us know our true feelings, which are the most important part of any decision we must make.

Wrong decisions are often made by focusing on external data: “If I do this, it will please my partner.” or, “I’m doing this for the thrill and fascination.”  “I’m doing it for the money.” or, “I want the power and position.”  “I may be running away from something I can’t or don’t want to face now, but so what?”

It is important to avoid impulsivity and “all-or-nothing” thinking.  If we can just slow down, take our time, talk our feelings through with friends or a support group, we begin to see the bigger picture.  If we’re still unsure of the right thing to do, we can ask for the Universe’s help, decide, and then trust the outcome.  The only wrong decision is one made for the wrong reasons!


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