The Gift of Forgiveness
“Even a stopped clock is right twice a day.” — Marie Ebner von Eschenbach
One of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is forgiveness. When we remember the past, we often find we were much harder on ourselves than we were on other people. We may no longer even remember some of our misdeeds, but it’s not so easy to erase the effects of self-punishment on our identity and self-esteem.
There is no need for us to punish ourselves. We can apologize to ourselves, just as we do to others. Then, we can forgive ourselves just as we do to others, and just as we are forgiven by them.
When we find it hard to forgive ourselves and let go, there are actions we can take: Reach out to someone, or try to find the real feelings beneath the urge to be so hard on ourselves. We can still be honest and choose gentleness. We can also keep our perspective, seeing things realistically and not creating a catastrophe where there is none. We can turn to the Universe, asking for a higher forgiveness and be assured of the Universe’s understanding and love.
Posted on March 4, 2009, in Addiction, Adversity, Change, forgiveness, Healing, Life, Life's Lessons, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Recovery, Relationships, Self-forgiveness, Shame, Spirituality and tagged 12 Step, 12 Step Program, Addiction, Amends, Apologize, Apology, forget the past, Forgiveness, Mental Health, Overcoming the past, Past Transgressions, Personal Growth, Recovery, Relationships, Self Discovery, Self Esteem, Self-acceptance, Self-forgiveness, Self-improvement, Self-punishment, Shame, Step 10, Step Ten, Tenth Step. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.