The Gift of Forgiveness



“Even a stopped clock is right twice a day.”  — Marie Ebner von Eschenbach


One of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is forgiveness.  When we remember the past, we often find we were much harder on ourselves than we were on other people.  We may no longer even remember some of our misdeeds, but it’s not so easy to erase the effects of self-punishment on our identity and self-esteem. 

There is no need for us to punish ourselves.  We can apologize to ourselves, just as we do to others.  Then, we can forgive ourselves just as we do to others, and just as we are forgiven by them. 

When we find it hard to forgive ourselves and let go, there are actions we can take: Reach out to someone, or try to find the real feelings beneath the urge to be so hard on ourselves.  We can still be honest and choose gentleness.  We can also keep our perspective, seeing things realistically and not creating a catastrophe where there is none.  We can turn to the Universe, asking for a higher forgiveness and be assured of the Universe’s understanding and love.


About Mark Schmitz

Living in Phoenix, AZ since 1995, originally from Brown Deer, Wisconsin. I'm a Gemini born on May 26, 1961. Single, GWM who is HIV and healthy. Spiritually diverse, I'm just trying to stay on the right path to learn all that I came here to learn. That's what my blogs are about - and total honesty.

Posted on March 4, 2009, in Addiction, Adversity, Change, forgiveness, Healing, Life, Life's Lessons, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Recovery, Relationships, Self-forgiveness, Shame, Spirituality and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Why the “Universe?”

    This is an excellent post, however, there is one more step to take along the lines of “Higher Power” and that is to accept the one who died for us…

    I’d be happy to share how!

    • Thank you for your comment regarding my blog. I am part of the Unitarian Universalist congregation. Unitarian Universalism is a liberal religion with Jewish-Christian roots. It has no creed. It affirms the worth of human beings, advocates freedom of belief and the search for advancing truth, and tries to provide a warm, open, supportive community for people who believe that ethical living is the supreme witness of religion. Use of “Universe” is seen as a non-judgmental, inclusive term, respecting the choice each individual makes as to his/her higher power.

      UU Principles

      There are seven principles which Unitarian Universalist congregations affirm and promote:

      * The inherent worth and dignity of every person;
      * Justice, equity and compassion in human relations;
      * Acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth in our congregations;
      * A free and responsible search for truth and meaning;
      * The right of conscience and the use of the democratic process within our congregations and in society at large;
      * The goal of world community with peace, liberty, and justice for all;
      * Respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.

      Unitarian Universalism (UU) draws from many sources:

      * Direct experience of that transcending mystery and wonder, affirmed in all cultures, which moves us to a renewal of the spirit and an openness to the forces which create and uphold life;
      * Words and deeds of prophetic women and men which challenge us to confront powers and structures of evil with justice, compassion, and the transforming power of love;
      * Wisdom from the world’s religions which inspires us in our ethical and spiritual life;
      * Jewish and Christian teachings which call us to respond to God’s love by loving our neighbors as ourselves;
      * Humanist teachings which counsel us to heed the guidance of reason and the results of science, and warn us against idolatries of the mind and spirit.
      * Spiritual teachings of earth-centered traditions which celebrate the sacred circle of life and instruct us to live in harmony with the rhythms of nature.

      These principles and sources of faith are the backbone of the UU religious community.

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