Archive for the ‘Fear’ Category
15
May
Posted by Mark Schmitz in About Me, Addiction, Fear, Inner Self, Life, Life's Lessons, Personal Growth, Personality, Purpose of Life, Recovery, Relationships, Self Discovery, Self-improvement, Spirituality, Weakness. Tagged: Addiction, Attack, Behavior, Charitable, Confidence, Defensive, Dogmatic, Flexibility, Forgiving, Life, Patience, Personal Growth, Recovery, Relationships, Self Discovery, Strength, Unworthy, Vulnerable. Leave a Comment
“When people are least sure, they are often most dogmatic.” — J.K. Galbraith
Weakness and fear make me defensive and dogmatic (adhering strictly to something). I often find myself becoming strident and aggressive without any apparent reason. I insult my acquaintances, hurt my friends, and even frighten the neighbor’s children. In that moment, I may feel [...]
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2
Apr
Posted by Mark Schmitz in About Me, Addiction, Afraid, Boundaries, Change, Conflict, Courage, Decision, Decision Making, Depression, Dificulty, Dishonest, Dispute, End of Relationship, Fear, Gay, Gay Relationship, Gay, Lesbian Bi-sexual, Transgendered, Queer [GLBTQ], Healing, Honesty, Hurt emotions, Inner Self, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Love Letters, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Personality, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Self Discovery, Self-forgiveness, Shame, Spirituality, Tough Times, course of right action, deceit, feelings, forgiveness, inspiration. Tagged: Divorce, End of Relationship, Good bye, Grief, Loss of relationship, Love, relationship, Separation, Sunday in the Park with George. 3 Comments
“I left because there was no room for me. But you could tell me not to go. Say it to me. Tell me not to go.” — Stephen Sondheim. Dot in Sunday in the Park with George.
To leave someone we love is to knowingly break a vital connection. Even if we chose to leave, we [...]
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20
Feb
Posted by Mark Schmitz in 12 Step Program, About Me, Addiction, Adversity, Change, Chemical Dependency, Drug Addiction, Fear, Life, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Purpose of Life, Recovery, Self Discovery, Self-improvement, Spirituality. Tagged: Addiction, Anxiety, Anxious, Awareness, Change, Consequences, despair, Disgrace, Fear, Isolation, Lonely, New, Personal Growth, Recovery, Ruin Life, Unhealthy Behavior. Leave a Comment
“An old error is always more popular than a new truth.” — German Proverb
I find that I often feel uncomfortable with the new because it causes me to reach out and expand my vision. This may be painful and I don’t like the pain that comes with change.
My life at times is cozy and gives [...]
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12
Feb
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Adversity, Boundaries, Challenge, Conflict, Defects, Delusion, Dificulty, Dishonest, Dispute, Dysfunction, Fear, Friendships, Game playing, Hurt emotions, Lying, Negative, Past Transgressions, People in your life, Personal Growth, Relationships, Self Discovery, Self concept, Self-improvement, Shortcomings, Spirituality, St. Francis of Assisi, Struggle, Tough Times, Truth, Vindictive, deceit, feelings, forgiveness. Tagged: Abandonment, Anger, Betrayal, Chaos, Choices, Control, Expectations, Insecurity, It is What iy is, Life drama, Mistakes, Personal Growth, Realistic Expectations. 2 Comments
“There is no greater enemy to those who would please than expectation.” — Montaigne
A friend and I were recently rehashing some difficulties - ridiculous drama, we recently experienced, courtesy of a mutual friend. This friend I was talking with suffered from the drama much more than I, to the tune of about $3,500. In her most recent [...]
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4
Feb
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Boundaries, Change, Childhood, Conflict, Family, Fear, Friends, Friendship, Friendships, Humanity, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, New Age, Opinions, People in your life, Personal Growth, Personality, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Self Discovery, Self-improvement, Shortcomings, Spirituality, Trust Personal Growth. Tagged: Addiction, Boundaries, Conflict, Decision Making, Family, Family of Choice, Fear, Friends, Friendship, Friendships, Honesty, Intimacy, Life's Lessons, Love, Mental Health, New Age, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Spirituality, Wisdom. 4 Comments
“It is an old an ironic habit of human beings to run faster when we have lost our way.” — Rollo May
Our boundaries are both inside and outside ourselves. No one can set them for us; we can only set them. For many of us, boundaries are often unfamiliar. We may wonder, What are they? [...]
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16
Dec
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Addiction, Boundaries, Change, Depression, Family, Fear, Friends, Friendship, Honesty, Hope, Humanity, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Relationships, Truth. Tagged: Addiction, All About Me, Boundaries, Change, Conflict, Depression, Family, Fear, Forgiveness, Friends, Friendship, Friendships, Honesty, Hope, Humanity, Intimacy, Knowledge, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Mental Health, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Truth, Wisdom. 4 Comments
“Perhaps the most important thing we can undertake toward the reduction of fear is to make it easier for people to accept themselves; to like themselves.” — Bonaro Overstreet
I was going about my life when suddenly; I became aware that I was feeling anxious, uncomfortable and insecure. But what I feel underneath is afraid. Even [...]
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15
Dec
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Addiction, Change, Depression, Fear, Honesty, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Relationships, Spirituality. Tagged: Addiction, Change, Depression, Family, Family of Choice, Fear, Friendship, Friendships, Honesty, Hope, Humanity, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Mental Health, Mental Health, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Spirituality, Truth, Wisdom. Leave a Comment
“Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.” — Marie Curie
Fear usually comes from ignorance and it paralyzes usually only as long as we remain in the dark. For many of us, fear is often free-floating anxiety that overtakes us inexplicably and pushes us toward unaccountable actions.
Anxiety and fear have [...]
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20
Sep
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Addiction, Change, Chemical Dependency, Decision Making, Drug Addiction, Fear, Life, Life's Lessons, Opinions, Perfection, Personal Growth, Recovery, Relationships, Spirituality. Tagged: 12 Step Group, 12 Step Program, A life once led, AA, AA slogan, Accept my relationships as they are, addict, Addiction, Change, Chemical Dependency, CMA, Death and Dying, Decision Making, Dramatic Life, Drug Addiction, Fear, Is there enough time, Life, Life with drug addict, Life's Drama, Life's Lessons, NA, One Day at a Time, Opinions, Perfection, Personal Growth, Recovery, Relationships, SMART Recovery, Spirituality, Time to live, Too much drama. 1 Comment
“Now, let the weeping cease; let no one mourn again. For the love of God will bring you peace. There is no end.” — Sophocles
When I look back on my life, I sometimes feel again the pain of how things used to be; the pain of a life once led. But I know that my [...]
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20
Sep
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Addiction, Chemical Dependency, Drug Addiction, Fear, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, New Age, Personal Growth, Recovery, Relationships, Spirituality. Tagged: 12 Step, 12 Step Group, 12 Step Program, A world of substance, addict, Addiction, Afraid of Individuality, Alcoholic, Chasing a dragon, chasing your dragon, Chemical Dependency, Crystal Meth, Dissatisfaction, Dragon, Drug Addict, Drug Addiction, Emotional Tools, emptiness, Fear, going after a phantom, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Love and affection, New Age, Particularity, Personal Growth, Phantom, Recovery, relapse, Relapse Prevention, Relationships, see people as a reflection of myself, Spirituality, Substance abuse, Tools for personal growth, Unconditional love, What lurks in the shadows. Leave a Comment
As an addict and when I have been actively using, I grasp only at the shadow of things. I neither relate to people as if they are real, nor do I communicate as a mature, loving person. Instead, I have pursued phantoms and a few dragons, and in the end, have found only dissatisfaction.
Addictions diminish [...]
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7
Sep
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Addiction, Boundaries, Change, Chemical Dependency, Conflict, Decision Making, Depression, Drug Addiction, Fear, Health, Hope, Life, Life's Lessons, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Spirituality, Suffering, Truth. Tagged: Addiction, Adversity, Boundaries, challenges, Change, Chemical Dependency, Conflict, Crystal Meth, Decision Making, Depression, Drug Addiction, Fear, Health, help others, Hope, How you look at it, Knowledge, Life, Life's Lessons, Look fear in the face, Meeting Needs, Mental Health, meth, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Spirituality, Suffering, Truth, Wisdom. Leave a Comment
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
One of the things I know I have gained through recovery and [...]
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