Archive for the ‘Conflict’ Category
2
Apr
Posted by Mark Schmitz in About Me, Addiction, Afraid, Boundaries, Change, Conflict, Courage, Decision, Decision Making, Depression, Dificulty, Dishonest, Dispute, End of Relationship, Fear, Gay, Gay Relationship, Gay, Lesbian Bi-sexual, Transgendered, Queer [GLBTQ], Healing, Honesty, Hurt emotions, Inner Self, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Love Letters, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Personality, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Self Discovery, Self-forgiveness, Shame, Spirituality, Tough Times, course of right action, deceit, feelings, forgiveness, inspiration. Tagged: Love, relationship, End of Relationship, Sunday in the Park with George, Separation, Divorce, Grief, Loss of relationship, Good bye. 3 Comments
“I left because there was no room for me. But you could tell me not to go. Say it to me. Tell me not to go.” — Stephen Sondheim. Dot in Sunday in the Park with George.
To leave someone we love is to knowingly break a vital connection. Even if we chose to leave, we [...]
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12
Feb
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Adversity, Boundaries, Challenge, Conflict, Defects, Delusion, Dificulty, Dishonest, Dispute, Dysfunction, Fear, Friendships, Game playing, Hurt emotions, Lying, Negative, Past Transgressions, People in your life, Personal Growth, Relationships, Self Discovery, Self concept, Self-improvement, Shortcomings, Spirituality, St. Francis of Assisi, Struggle, Tough Times, Truth, Vindictive, deceit, feelings, forgiveness. Tagged: Abandonment, Anger, Betrayal, Chaos, Choices, Control, Expectations, Insecurity, It is What iy is, Life drama, Mistakes, Personal Growth, Realistic Expectations. 2 Comments
“There is no greater enemy to those who would please than expectation.” — Montaigne
A friend and I were recently rehashing some difficulties - ridiculous drama, we recently experienced, courtesy of a mutual friend. This friend I was talking with suffered from the drama much more than I, to the tune of about $3,500. In her most recent [...]
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4
Feb
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Boundaries, Change, Childhood, Conflict, Family, Fear, Friends, Friendship, Friendships, Humanity, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, New Age, Opinions, People in your life, Personal Growth, Personality, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Self Discovery, Self-improvement, Shortcomings, Spirituality, Trust Personal Growth. Tagged: Addiction, Boundaries, Conflict, Decision Making, Family, Family of Choice, Fear, Friends, Friendship, Friendships, Honesty, Intimacy, Life's Lessons, Love, Mental Health, New Age, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Spirituality, Wisdom. 4 Comments
“It is an old an ironic habit of human beings to run faster when we have lost our way.” — Rollo May
Our boundaries are both inside and outside ourselves. No one can set them for us; we can only set them. For many of us, boundaries are often unfamiliar. We may wonder, What are they? [...]
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7
Dec
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Boundaries, Conflict, Family, Friends, Friendship, Honesty, Humanity, Life, Life's Lessons, Lying, Opinions, Personal Growth, Poetry, Relationships. Tagged: Boundaries, Conflict, Family, Friends, Friendship, Gossip, Gossip Express, Honesty, Humanity, Humor, Life, Life's Lessons, Lying, Opinions, Personal Growth, Poems, Poetry, Relationships, Sense of Humor. Leave a Comment
This one is an informational subject.
It may even strike that nerve and single you out.
The only one you apparently have,
Or so I’ve heard,
Through the vast endeavors
Of the he said – she said crowd.
Oh my god, you’re the talk of the town!
Like a novel one can’t put down.
On the best sellers list, it cuts like a knife.
I had [...]
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7
Sep
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Addiction, Boundaries, Change, Chemical Dependency, Conflict, Decision Making, Depression, Drug Addiction, Fear, Health, Hope, Life, Life's Lessons, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Spirituality, Suffering, Truth. Tagged: Addiction, Adversity, Boundaries, challenges, Change, Chemical Dependency, Conflict, Crystal Meth, Decision Making, Depression, Drug Addiction, Fear, Health, help others, Hope, How you look at it, Knowledge, Life, Life's Lessons, Look fear in the face, Meeting Needs, Mental Health, meth, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Spirituality, Suffering, Truth, Wisdom. Leave a Comment
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
One of the things I know I have gained through recovery and [...]
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22
Aug
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Addiction, Change, Conflict, Depression, Enthusiasm, Fear, Hope, Life, Life's Lessons, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Spirituality, Suffering. Tagged: Addiction, Change, Commitments, Conflict, Depression, Enthusiasm, Fear, Grace, Hope, Knowledge, Life, Life's Lessons, Meeting Needs, Mental Health, peace, personal discovery, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, sobriety, Spirits up, Spirituality, Struggle, Suffering, Trust, When the best we have to give is required, Wisdom. Leave a Comment
Can such thing be, And overcome us like a summer’s cloud, Without our special wonder? — William Shakespeare
To overcome my feeling of being lost, alone and afraid; overwhelmed by the challenges I now face, I am going through my “tool belt” of coping mechanisms that I have added along life’s way. To reclaim my ability [...]
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29
Jul
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Conflict, Fear, Gay, Lesbian Bi-sexual, Transgendered, Queer [GLBTQ], Life, Life's Lessons, Opinions, Personal Growth, Relationships. Tagged: Alan Cohen, Conflict, Conflict resolution, confrontation, Emotional Tools, Fear, Gay, Lesbian Bi-sexual, Transgendered, Queer [GLBTQ], Healthy conflict, Life, Life's Lessons, Opinions, Personal Growth, Relationships, solving conflict. 5 Comments
In December, 2007 I blogged about a quote I had just then read from Alan Cohen, “All conflict ends in love.” I wondered at first, “Is this stated as an affirmation?” No, some lofty, spiritual, existential ideal I was willing to bet after dedicating the quote only minimal brain power.
I blogged about Alan Cohen’s [...]
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20
Jul
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Addiction, Boundaries, Change, Conflict, Depression, Fear, Health, Hope, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Loneliness, Love, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Solitude, Suffering, Truth. Tagged: Addiction, Boundaries, Change, Conflict, Depression, Fear, Health, Hope, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Loneliness, Love, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Solitude, Suffering, Truth. Leave a Comment
For four days, I was unable to get out of bed. I couldn’t eat. I didn’t care about anything. I wanted to die. Really, I found myself hating my life so much that I began to think putting an end to it was the answer. The last time I felt this way was that dreadful [...]
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10
Jul
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Boundaries, Conflict, Depression, Fear, Honesty, Life, Life's Lessons, Lying, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Relationships, Truth. Tagged: Alan Cohen, Amends, Being Honest With Another Person, Boundaries, Conflict, Depression, detachment, disconnection, dishonesty, Dispute, Dissapointment, Fear, Hate, hatred, Healing, Honesty, Life, Life's Lessons, Lying, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Quote about healing, Relationships, Resentment, Resentments, Tools for personal growth, Truth, Wicca, Wisdom. 1 Comment
For every person in your past with whom you feel unhealed but unable to go back and resolve, there is someone standing before you offering you the opportunity to practice the healing you believe you missed.
– Alan Cohen
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7
Jul
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Conflict, Fear, Gay Domestic Violence, Life, Life's Lessons, Personal Growth, Relationships, Violence. Tagged: Anger, Anger Management, Conflict, Fear, Gay Domestic Violence, Life, Life's Lessons, Personal Growth, Relationships, Violence. 7 Comments
Perhaps we were brought up in a family where anger was unthinkable and never mentioned; voices were never raised. Perhaps everything was bottled up because we were afraid of anger. But we were angry!
It’s hard to be angry appropriately. It needs to be learned, like so many things in our emotional life. If we haven’t [...]
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