Archive for the ‘Boundaries’ Category
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Apr
Posted by Mark Schmitz in About Me, Addiction, Afraid, Boundaries, Change, Conflict, Courage, Decision, Decision Making, Depression, Dificulty, Dishonest, Dispute, End of Relationship, Fear, Gay, Gay Relationship, Gay, Lesbian Bi-sexual, Transgendered, Queer [GLBTQ], Healing, Honesty, Hurt emotions, Inner Self, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Love Letters, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Personality, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Self Discovery, Self-forgiveness, Shame, Spirituality, Tough Times, course of right action, deceit, feelings, forgiveness, inspiration. Tagged: Divorce, End of Relationship, Good bye, Grief, Loss of relationship, Love, relationship, Separation, Sunday in the Park with George. 3 Comments
“I left because there was no room for me. But you could tell me not to go. Say it to me. Tell me not to go.” — Stephen Sondheim. Dot in Sunday in the Park with George.
To leave someone we love is to knowingly break a vital connection. Even if we chose to leave, we [...]
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2
Apr
Posted by Mark Schmitz in About Me, Boundaries, Change, Decision, Gay, Gay Relationship, Gay, Lesbian Bi-sexual, Transgendered, Queer [GLBTQ], Healing, Hurt emotions, Life, Life's Lessons, Mental Health, People in your life, Personal Growth, Personality, Recovery, Self-forgiveness, Shame, Spirituality, Struggle, Tough Times, Truth, coupling, feelings, forgiveness. Tagged: Anger, Betrayal, Divorce, End of Relationship, Fear, Goodbye, Grief, Loss of relationship, Love, Pain of Divorce, Rejection, relationship, Separation, Sunday in the Park with George. Leave a Comment
“She looks for me. God. Let her look for me and tell me why she left me.” — Stephen Sondheim. George in Sunday in the Park with George.
To be left by someone we love is to experience a break in the heart’s flow. To be left is to endure unanswered questions, to feel fear, anger, [...]
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12
Feb
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Adversity, Boundaries, Challenge, Conflict, Defects, Delusion, Dificulty, Dishonest, Dispute, Dysfunction, Fear, Friendships, Game playing, Hurt emotions, Lying, Negative, Past Transgressions, People in your life, Personal Growth, Relationships, Self Discovery, Self concept, Self-improvement, Shortcomings, Spirituality, St. Francis of Assisi, Struggle, Tough Times, Truth, Vindictive, deceit, feelings, forgiveness. Tagged: Abandonment, Anger, Betrayal, Chaos, Choices, Control, Expectations, Insecurity, It is What iy is, Life drama, Mistakes, Personal Growth, Realistic Expectations. 2 Comments
“There is no greater enemy to those who would please than expectation.” — Montaigne
A friend and I were recently rehashing some difficulties - ridiculous drama, we recently experienced, courtesy of a mutual friend. This friend I was talking with suffered from the drama much more than I, to the tune of about $3,500. In her most recent [...]
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4
Feb
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Boundaries, Change, Childhood, Conflict, Family, Fear, Friends, Friendship, Friendships, Humanity, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, New Age, Opinions, People in your life, Personal Growth, Personality, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Self Discovery, Self-improvement, Shortcomings, Spirituality, Trust Personal Growth. Tagged: Addiction, Boundaries, Conflict, Decision Making, Family, Family of Choice, Fear, Friends, Friendship, Friendships, Honesty, Intimacy, Life's Lessons, Love, Mental Health, New Age, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Spirituality, Wisdom. 4 Comments
“It is an old an ironic habit of human beings to run faster when we have lost our way.” — Rollo May
Our boundaries are both inside and outside ourselves. No one can set them for us; we can only set them. For many of us, boundaries are often unfamiliar. We may wonder, What are they? [...]
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17
Jan
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Addiction, Boundaries, Change, Chemical Dependency, Drug Addiction, Honesty, Hope, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Lying, Opinions, Personal Growth, Recovery, Relationships, Spirituality, Truth. Tagged: 12 Step Program, Addiction, Adversity, Boundaries, Change, Chemical Dependency, Conflict, Drug Addiction, Family, Fear, Friends, Health, Honesty, Hope, Intimacy, Knowledge, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Lying, Mental Health, Mental Health, Opinions, Personal Growth, Recovery, Relationships, Spirituality, Truth, Wisdom. 2 Comments
“Our first priority must be our individual recovery; only when we have succeeded in improving our self-esteem will we be able to be in a relationship truly by choice and not our of dependency.” – Jennifer and Burt Schneider
Sex is not glue. It doesn’t keep people with us. We’ve often misunderstood sexuality and intimacy when we [...]
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16
Dec
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Addiction, Boundaries, Change, Depression, Family, Fear, Friends, Friendship, Honesty, Hope, Humanity, Intimacy, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Relationships, Truth. Tagged: Addiction, All About Me, Boundaries, Change, Conflict, Depression, Family, Fear, Forgiveness, Friends, Friendship, Friendships, Honesty, Hope, Humanity, Intimacy, Knowledge, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Mental Health, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Relationships, Truth, Wisdom. 4 Comments
“Perhaps the most important thing we can undertake toward the reduction of fear is to make it easier for people to accept themselves; to like themselves.” — Bonaro Overstreet
I was going about my life when suddenly; I became aware that I was feeling anxious, uncomfortable and insecure. But what I feel underneath is afraid. Even [...]
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7
Dec
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Boundaries, Conflict, Family, Friends, Friendship, Honesty, Humanity, Life, Life's Lessons, Lying, Opinions, Personal Growth, Poetry, Relationships. Tagged: Boundaries, Conflict, Family, Friends, Friendship, Gossip, Gossip Express, Honesty, Humanity, Humor, Life, Life's Lessons, Lying, Opinions, Personal Growth, Poems, Poetry, Relationships, Sense of Humor. Leave a Comment
This one is an informational subject.
It may even strike that nerve and single you out.
The only one you apparently have,
Or so I’ve heard,
Through the vast endeavors
Of the he said – she said crowd.
Oh my god, you’re the talk of the town!
Like a novel one can’t put down.
On the best sellers list, it cuts like a knife.
I had [...]
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6
Dec
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Boundaries, Childhood, Family, Honesty, Humanity, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Personal Growth, Relationships. Tagged: Addiction, All powerful, Boundaries, Brian Boner Art, Childhood, Childlike Wonder, Children, Dysfunction, Family, Gratification, Honesty, Hope, Humanity, Immortaility, Innocence, Invincible, Kingdom of Children, Life, Life's Lessons, Love, Opinions, Personal Growth, Pleasure-oriented world, Recovery, Relationships, Self-centeredness. Leave a Comment
“Childhood is the kingdom where nobody dies.” — Edna St. Vincent Millay
Children feel themselves all-powerful in an infinite world. Nothing disappears, nothing passes away. In our earliest days, our pleasures were limitless and timeless. Reality was only an obstacle to gratification.
In our drama, our addictions and other unhealthy behaviors we often remain fixed in a [...]
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7
Sep
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Addiction, Boundaries, Change, Chemical Dependency, Conflict, Decision Making, Depression, Drug Addiction, Fear, Health, Hope, Life, Life's Lessons, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Spirituality, Suffering, Truth. Tagged: Addiction, Adversity, Boundaries, challenges, Change, Chemical Dependency, Conflict, Crystal Meth, Decision Making, Depression, Drug Addiction, Fear, Health, help others, Hope, How you look at it, Knowledge, Life, Life's Lessons, Look fear in the face, Meeting Needs, Mental Health, meth, Opinions, Personal Growth, Positive Thinking, Recovery, Spirituality, Suffering, Truth, Wisdom. Leave a Comment
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
One of the things I know I have gained through recovery and [...]
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30
Jul
Posted by Mark Schmitz in Boundaries, Life, Life's Lessons, Opinions, Personal Growth, Relationships. Tagged: Abuse, Affirmation of self-worth, aggressive actions, aggressive acts, Anger, Anger, Anger Management, Anger Management, Boundaries, dignity, Forgive, Forgiveness, Forgiving, Hate the deed and not the doer, hurtful actions, hurtful acts, Life, Life's Lessons, Misdirected Anger, Opinions, Peace-loving, Personal Growth, Relationships, Right to be angry, Separate the behavior from the person, Serenity, Sexual abuse, Tolerance, Torment, victim, victimized. 2 Comments
Anger as soon as fed is dead. ‘Tis starving makes it fat.” — Emily Dickinson
I have a problem with anger. My partner has a problem with anger and is working on anger management with his therapist. Many of us seem to have a problem with anger, often misdirecting it and hurting the most innocent and [...]
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